tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3554125151787997248.post4350082383730792324..comments2024-02-02T23:22:33.356-08:00Comments on From Sarah, With Joy: A Good Girls Guide to Being AggressiveSarah Allenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01185278849400551014noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3554125151787997248.post-90008508307246596822015-03-19T18:28:17.150-07:002015-03-19T18:28:17.150-07:00Ah, yes. Very, very excellent points. Your right t...Ah, yes. Very, very excellent points. Your right that sometimes the door's just not there, no matter our knocking. That's a good thing to keep in mind, although I'm learning that the knocking is still worth it for those times when the doors do open. Best of luck with everything!Sarah Allenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01185278849400551014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3554125151787997248.post-90837895008814631622015-03-19T18:25:55.640-07:002015-03-19T18:25:55.640-07:00Glad I have your guys' support :D I'm lear...Glad I have your guys' support :D I'm learning the difference and hoping to get it right :)Sarah Allenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01185278849400551014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3554125151787997248.post-74337481615168417022015-03-19T18:24:49.537-07:002015-03-19T18:24:49.537-07:00Yep. But we good girls can do it!Yep. But we good girls can do it!Sarah Allenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01185278849400551014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3554125151787997248.post-30215908837755178732015-03-19T18:24:31.961-07:002015-03-19T18:24:31.961-07:00Thank you! And yes, its taken me a while but I hop...Thank you! And yes, its taken me a while but I hope I'm starting to be able to tell the difference.Sarah Allenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01185278849400551014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3554125151787997248.post-25141507415917027742015-03-19T18:24:10.803-07:002015-03-19T18:24:10.803-07:00Exactly! I'm just learning to squeak a little ...Exactly! I'm just learning to squeak a little more loudly, although against the wall is still most definitely my comfort zone :)Sarah Allenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01185278849400551014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3554125151787997248.post-9428343926513074752015-03-19T18:23:45.140-07:002015-03-19T18:23:45.140-07:00Thank you for your comments!! I completely agree. ...Thank you for your comments!! I completely agree. It's just so hard to know, but I'm beginning to understand that as long as the consideration and respect is there, confidence can be too, and can pay off in some big ways.Sarah Allenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01185278849400551014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3554125151787997248.post-27868115452080350552015-03-17T21:51:57.482-07:002015-03-17T21:51:57.482-07:00I wrote three good books for Cengage (which was th...I wrote three good books for Cengage (which was then Nelson) education publisher. I'm still receiving royalties twelve years later - decent royalties. But once the primary publisher left - very suddenly - she was replaced by a man who simply wasn't interested. He did reply, I'll give him that, but recently he has made it clear to me that he has a stable of writers and doesn't want any more. No matter how much money my books are still earning for his company, he isn't interested. You know the kind: "We have your name on our author database, we'll get back to you if anything comes up." Yeah, right. If you were going for a job, Mister, and someone said, "We'll get back to you if anything comes up, we have your name on our system" would YOU expect to hear from them? I more or less said so to him, politely. I had pointed out to him that his company was still doing nicely out of the books I had written for them. No luck.<br /><br />So, well done, Sarah, but it doesn't always pay. I'm glad it did work out for you this time, but I wouldn't count on it in future. You'll get a lot of frustration for every success.Sue Bursztynskihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09362273418897882971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3554125151787997248.post-59849315985191527102015-03-16T15:02:03.215-07:002015-03-16T15:02:03.215-07:00Good on you, Sarah! And I agree with Shelly: that ...Good on you, Sarah! And I agree with Shelly: that is NOT being pushy, but being assertive!noelle44https://www.blogger.com/profile/00333648063604618407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3554125151787997248.post-31939987508781042522015-03-16T08:57:15.022-07:002015-03-16T08:57:15.022-07:00Assertiveness is sometimes mistaken for being asse...Assertiveness is sometimes mistaken for being assertive. I have the same problem.shellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09596621767297173021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3554125151787997248.post-68799078519670171232015-03-16T08:53:28.391-07:002015-03-16T08:53:28.391-07:00That's not aggressive - that's assertive! ...That's not aggressive - that's assertive! And sometimes you have to step up for yourself.<br />Congratulations on scoring the article.Alex J. Cavanaughhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09770065693345181702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3554125151787997248.post-23125600301776982122015-03-16T07:05:30.167-07:002015-03-16T07:05:30.167-07:00I'm not pushy at all--until I am. I've act...I'm not pushy at all--until I am. I've actually gotten two jobs because I was a squeaky wheel. Most of the time you would hardly notice me as I stay against the wall and wait. <br /><br />Teresa T. Powell Coltrinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02160774009926623671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3554125151787997248.post-55890483894593990132015-03-16T05:28:52.947-07:002015-03-16T05:28:52.947-07:00GREAT post!!! Thanks so much for sharing it. I'...GREAT post!!! Thanks so much for sharing it. I'm different from you, from the standpoint that in everyday life I'm very confident and straightforward. I'm an introvert, but when I *do* put myself out there, I don't have any trouble being confident and whatnot without being pushy. HOWEVER. I get VERY cagey when it comes to emailing agents/editors. It's so difficult to judge that delicate line between firmly representing yourself and coming across as an asshat. Artemis Greyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10849091563671031929noreply@blogger.com