John Green, I have to just say what I have to say. It seems like the views represented are more often than not on one extreme or the other, which leaves me feeling quite under-represented. I would love to get your thoughts on my thoughts and I know we can keep discussion civil, and again, I apologize in advance for offending anyone.
I don't believe this issue is as cut and dry as people make it out to be. People are put in either the florescent rainbow camp or the brainwashed h8tr camp and I've never felt like I belong to either. After much thinking and discussing and several totally awesome gay friends (even in Utah, I know!), I have come to two main conclusions:
1. People are people.
Shocking, I know. This is the area where I agree with people when they say this is a "human rights issue" and not a "gay marriage issue." People are people, people. Whether they're gay, straight, white, black, addicted, annoying, ginger, athiest, Buddhist, whatever. Even the Scientologists count as people (well, most of them). But seriously, the fact that anyone is being treated any differently because of anything like that is disgusting and we as a civilization should be so beyond past that. Homosexuals specifically, they love just as genuinely as anyone else, they hate stereotypes just as much as anyone else, and they want to be happy just like anyone else. That is not new or shocking or unrealistic and shouldn't be. I have no problem if two guys want to live together and be happy and have things like hospital visitation rights and be allowed to do taxes together or will property to each other or that kind of thing. Again, I don't think any of this should be an issue. If you have a problem with someone else, its usually just your problem. I mean, on a general philosophical level, stereotyping is dangerous, and someone's sexual orientation is only one thing on a huge list of the things that add up to who that person is, and its not even the most interesting one. People. Are. People.
2. I have a right to a religiously based definition of marriage.
So, I'm pretty sure what I said above isn't gonna ruffle too many feathers. What I'm about to say might, and I'm sorry. But here's the thing, and I'm not quite sure how to say "the thing" in the first place, so bear with me. The comparison to interracial marriage and the calling people who would or did vote in favor of proposition 8 "h8trs" makes me really uncomfortable. For me this has nothing to do with "hating" anyone or thinking anyone is less than anyone else because they're gay or black or atheist or whatever else. We're all people, remember?
But. I still have a right to believe in a definition of marriage as one man and one woman. One of the founding principles of this country was freedom of religion. In John Green's video he talks about how even the religious...not just religious, but historical Christian definition of marriage is incredibly complex and he's right (remember Solomon?). However, as an LDS Christian, I also believe in modern revelation, that God still speaks to prophets and apostles, ("the same yesterday, today, and tomorrow" and all that) and under the umbrella of that belief, modern revelation states that marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God. So whatever the complexity and confusion was before, that's where things stand, at least according to my beliefs.
Churches and people have a right to believe what they believe about marriage. I would even go so far as to say they have a right to defend that belief, and should not be forced to do anything they are morally opposed to doing, such as performing gay marriages, etc. But the largest tenet of Christian belief, at least according to, you know, Jesus, is loving God and our neighbor, and I've seen some pretty horrific examples of Christians doing a terrible job at that.
Are these two things incompatible? I don't think so. You might say, well, Sarah, putting these two things together basically just means that your only problem with gay marriage and the main reason you would vote yes on something like proposition 8 all boils down to a definition issue. You would basically be right. I believe people are people, I believe marriage is sacred, and I believe if you have a feeling towards anyone anyone ANYONE that is anything less than love, you have some work to do, and that's what you should be worrying about.
Including me. I'm still thinking about things and working on things, as we all are. I hope I can be allowed to be religious without being bigoted. I hope I can be allowed my faith and that everyone can be allowed love and happiness. I hope this isn't too much to ask, and again, I hope I haven't offended anyone.
What do you think?